six months

Candice came up again today post-run. 

Apparently she extended the lease for another 6 years and they're getting AC. 

.... so she can afford to stay after all, apparently.

I'm mad because I wanted her to move because it would put more space between us. 

I'm mad because I thought she couldn't afford to stay. 

I'm mad because maybe I did play a role in her wanting to "move."

And now she's keeping her safe space and keeping her girlfriend. 

I'm mad because I wanted her to feel something, some form of sadness or anger or blame. 

But no. That's my island. 

The one I followed her to and she left me on.

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