reasons to move out & go no contact

  1.  My family picked a house without me. They literally picked a house for us to all move in without me ever even seeing it. They scheduled a tour and waited until I was asleep on a Sunday to text me that they were leaving to see it. I only saw that text after I woke up and they'd been and came back.
  2. Instead of renting, my mother was most likely putting in an offer to buy said house. Which is her prerogative but lying to be about it via omission is fucked up. And why would I assume she had an offer on the house? Because I was never asked to fill out an application for rental and when we looked up the address at work, it was on the market for sale. And because they were so sketchy during that time I honestly thought they were gonna keep me away from the house until it was too late for me to say no so
  3. I confronted my mother about me not seeing the house. She brought it up "casually" and I asked when will I get a chance to see it and she brushed me off blabbering about how the realtor was sick and no one else could let them into the house and she has been reaching out yadda yadda. Knowing this was a lie, I asked her what if I don't like it. She said if I don't like it, we will have to keep looking. Meanwhile, she probably had an offer on this house the entire time.
  4. My mother's toxic text chain from her and my sisters cornering my as soon as I made it back home from my birthday weekend.
  5. Last weekend, I cried when I opened the pantry to see just how little space I have partnered with
  6. My mother passive aggressively texting me via the group after I rearranged the fridge. I thought things had been shifted around because of the moving, maybe things got knocked around and just put back for the time being. It was actually irritating to open it and all my stuff be moved around. Turns out, she designated everyone to have their own shelf space. And all of my stuff was shoved on one of the shorter shelves at the very top.
  7. I had my pantry stuff in the house for this entire week. Only Sunday did my mother ask me to move stuff out of the way so she won't "hit her toe" walking into the pantry that is barley larger than a closet. It feels like she is picking a fight more than making a request. A full week and today's the day she noticed? Was it because last night my sister asked me to help with holding up a bed they were putting together and I said no? Because I didn't want to, I'm good enough for doing work but not good enough to be heard, and I was taking down my fucking hair.
  8. I have pulled out my hair lately, more than I have in a very long time. So much so, I felt how much hair was missing along the middle to the top of my head when I washed it last night and I couldn't let myself look at it because I was scared it would send me over the edge.
  9. I get scared of being in the house with them sometimes. Sometimes when all the lights are off and I'm walking in the house and everyone's asleep, the monsters I think will come around the corner look like them. 
  10. I don't trust my family. 
  11. My mom lied to the neighbors about why we're moving. 
  12. My family made moving plans without me.
  13. My mother moved her habitually lying, murdering brother into our house. 
  14. I have never had an actual heart to heart with either parent in my life.
  15. My mother MIGHT be the reason I didn't know I had to move out in college.
  16. My mother didn't support me going back to school.
  17. That family meeting we had that was full of postering and I was cornered by my sisters and my mom just sat there and let it happen. 
  18. Her refusal to give me a house key and then gaslighting me at my response. 
  19. They made me feel crazy. 
  20. They made me believe I was mean.
  21. My mother lied to the neighbors about why we were moving. And I understand you don't owe anyone your truth, but it's another mark in the "she's inauthentic". And this is someone who's hill to die on was "I will not raise a liar. If you'll lie, you'll steal. If you'll steal, you'll kill" Not joking. 
  22. If my mother died tomorrow, I honestly don't believe my sisters could take care of themselves. 
  23. My sisters are ill prepared for life. 
  24. If and when they ever come to me for help, I don't know if I could even trust them enough to help. 
  25. My own mother gaslit me. 
  26. My parents have emotionally stunted all of us. 
  27. I expect people to treat me poorly and doubt their sincerity when they treat me nicely.
  28. No matter what I put on this list to potentially read to my family to explain why I want to go no contact, they probably won't understand or car because I'm unlearning the only truth they know. 
  29. I never thought I could actually live a good life or be happy. That, to me, was a fairytale, like dreaming to one day marry a prince and be swept away (Candice... shit)
  30. I feel like I don't know how to be human, like I can't "person' right. 
  31. There's is no O'hana in this house. Just obligation and loyalty. 

I understand they may not have the capacity to love me the way I deserve to be loved but they sure as shit are good as mistreating me as a result.

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