back on routine

I have heat in my car, thank God.

And my water pump and thermostat were replaced and my brakes were maintained.

And $2000 later, my car feels comfortable again. No more looming stress about getting the heat fixed yet again.

I took control. I bit the bullet.

Ohmygah, something clicked. I learned how to manage expectations at the car shop and the doctor. 

What if I use that same method with gym girl? What if I go back to my therapy basics?

Take the fear with me along with 3 things I want to make sure I get done.

Ok. If and when the conversation with us happens, here are my three things:

- I would like to know your honest side of things about what happened between us.

- I don't think we can be friends. We can be friendly but I don't think we can be that close and only be friends.

- I want you to know I do hate where we are now but I don't hate you. You did hurt me but I don't hate you. I'm actually very grateful for the time we shared. And I'm going to miss it alot. 

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