i have a Dom

Yep. I have a Dom.

Really, I've had two Doms over the past three years. I guess you can say I'm in the community.

I've had a D for about two years now. On and off really.

Honestly, I really worked up the courage to tell my best friend when he dumped me (I'll get to that). I just chickened out because it never seemed like the right time. I almost told her this weekend when I realized it wasn't the time that was wrong, I just don't think she'd understand. Not in a "I don't get it but if you're happy and not being forced to do anything you don't want to I'm good" type of way. I just know it'd be one of those things that she would always make references to, have backhanded comments about, etc.

So, this is my first time really telling anyone. No one know except for him and I. Unless he's told someone, I don't know. It's possible but I wouldn't mind. I trust him not to air me out because I've been open and honest with him about everything. Which is part of the reason I really enjoy our relationship.

So this post will be short and sweet because I know this is going to be a long one.

Hopefully I can break it up into the class WWHWW (why, what, how, where, when). There will be know who because I also respect his privacy.

I honestly almost broke down and wrote an angry post after he dumped me because I was pissed. Piiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiissed. But we've talked about it. I asked why, it was answered, and then we played.

So, I guess get ready for these entries lol. Maybe I'll do two posts: "my D/s relationship" and "my s discovery" and break them into sections. We'll just have to see.

If you are in the BDSM community, I'd love to hear from you. If you're interested in the BDSM community, seek credible sources for information on the ins and out, dos and donts, etc. BDSM is really based on trust, honesty, and vulnerability. All those things work together to keep any and all activities safe and consensual. If you hear of any relationship where these three things don't exist, it's more than likely an unhealthy one.

I don't know a lot, a lot about the community, but I'm a smart girl and a fast learner. I've honestly let my hormones be my guide with me researching any and everything along the way. That way if I thought my body was telling me something, I could make sure it's something that logistically appealed to me. Daydreaming and fantasizing is safe because it's not real, but experimenting with what you think would do it for you is something completely different.

I'll make a new label called D/s and that's where you'll be able to find all things in my life that are BDSM-related.

Oh! And, yes, I'm still a virgin (technically). There's your bait lol. Come back later for the catch.